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Stop Feeling Overwhelmed Immediately

Are you often feeling overwhelmed throughout your day?

I certainly am. I work on so many projects simultaneously that I feel needed in so many places and by so many people, all at once.

As an HSP, highly sensitive person, I feel a constant need to deliver and fear greatly of disappointing others.

However, I found a hack that helps me prioritize and eliminate feeling overwhelmed in under five minutes.

If your to-do list is never ending, like mine, this trick will save you..

All you have to do is ask yourself this one question, and come at it from different angles. 

The question is this:

“Do I have to do this RIGHT NOW?”

HERE is how you can work with it:

1. “Do *I* have to do this right now?” …as in, can someone else do it for you.


2. “Do I *Have* to do this right now?” As in, is this something you WANT to do? feel pressured to do? Think is a good idea to do?


3. “Do I have *to do* this right now?” …what will happen if you DON’T do it at all today?

4. “Do I have to do *this* right now?” Is this the most IMPORTANT thing to do right now?


5. “Do I have to do this *right now*?” Can this be POSTPONED to later today, tomorrow, next day?


What do you think about this hack?

Will you give it a go the next time that you are overwhelmed with your to-do list?

Best,

Lee Snir

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Deepen your Relationships by Being Vulnerable (A Blast from the Past)

Warning! This weekly challenge will require some bravery.

Hey, I’m Lee Snir, a co-founder at Legendary Life. You know, Todd and I are often giving you insights, advice, and action steps, but only if we’ve done it ourselves first. Today I would like to challenge you to do something that I have recently done, and it really WOWED me.

2020 brought a global pandemic that has forced us to stay away from people.

It was already hard to maintain friendships and relationships and even harder to create new ones.

During the final months of 2020, I happened to dream about a girl with whom I had met 19 years ago, at school. This was a girl that I had no contact with for about 17 years, and we weren’t even connected on social media. It was quite odd that she popped into my head out of the blue like this.

I remember her in such a positive way. I remember being jealous about how centered she was and how nobody in school managed to annoy her.  She would laugh at all the popular kids and found them very amusing. She was extremely talented with her studies and had an abundance of emotional intelligence at such a young age. I looked up to her and wanted to be her friend. Even when I became popular, I still thought that she was something special.

I decided to contact her, now, at the age of 31.

I didn’t have much data to go with. All that I remembered was her first name, Amber.

I remember her last name very vaguely and that really made the FB search after her tedious and long. Regardless, I was determined to talk to her now, woman to woman, and tell her that I appreciate her, until this very day.

It was a quiet Sunday morning when I woke up from another dream about her. At around 7 AM, I jumped out of bed and decided to track her down on Facebook. I looked through so many profiles with the same first and last name as hers. I FOUND HER! She looked exactly as I remember, as we were little girls.

I was about to message her when I thought, “I shouldn’t. She is going to think I am so creepy and weird.” Despite these negative thoughts running through my mind, I found the courage that I needed along with the realistic thought, “I have nothing to lose.” Besides, there must be a reason that she appeared in my thoughts so randomly after 17 years of not seeing her.

This is what I wrote, “Amber!!! It’s you!!! I am so happy that I finally managed to find you! I don’t know if you remember me. We were friends in school. I know that it’s a bit odd that I am contacting you now after all these years. I have been recently thinking and dreaming about you and I don’t know why. It’s quite strange. I just wanted to tell you that you were the coolest kid I ever met, really. You had a center. You were very authentic and true to yourself.

I appreciated you as a kid more than I appreciated anyone else from school and I thought highly about you as a child. If it’s not too weird to ask, I would like to invite you to meet one day after the quarantine is over.”

I clicked SEND.

You see, my critical thinking told me that I will be rejected and that trying to do this will make me come across as a strange person. This is exactly why I decided to go ahead and do it. I don’t want fears to dictate my way or yours. I don’t want us to be on our deathbeds filled with regrets about things that we wanted to do and have not done, due to our fears.

I decided to go for this challenge with my true authentic self. As you can see by the message I wrote to Amber, I dared to be vulnerable and show it to her.

This week, I challenge you to be vulnerable and dare to take action.

If you have anyone in your life that you have thought about contacting but are hesitant to do so, then do so! Be brave and do so with authenticity. Think about it, What will be the worst-case scenario? Rejection? Yes, It’s not pleasant to experience, but I’m sure that just like me, you have been rejected in the past.

We both survived it, haven’t we?

Go on, contact that person. Move past your fears. If you have done it, don’t forget to contact me here and let me know that you did it so we can celebrate together!

Sending love,

Lee.

P.S.

I’m sure you’re wondering if Amber answered and what she said three hours later.

“Lee! Of course, I remember you!  Even though it has been around 17 years, it seems like yesterday to me. To be honest, I was kind of afraid to answer your message. 

I’m really not the woman I wanted to be, and I don’t want you to be disappointed by who I  have become.

“Your message really made my day and I’m feeling very emotional since you sent it. Thank you for doing so, it means a lot to me. I would love to meet up with you after quarantine.”

You see, I was authentic when I wrote to her. She was authentic when she wrote back to me.

This made it all super special, intimate, and deep.

I look forward to meeting her.

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Gray Hair. Don’t Care

Do women with gray hair who don’t dye their hair look like they are neglecting themselves in your opinion? 

What do you think when you see a woman with gray hair? Do you think she has given up on herself? Perhaps, that she is lazy? Or maybe, because of the rat race she’s probably so involved with her work and kids, she merely forgot to take care of herself?

This week I turned 30 and at the same time I found 3 white hairs. No one can see them now because I have blonde highlights. But it wouldn’t bother me even if they were able to be seen. When I told my mom about it, she made me smile by saying that my grays were “physical expressions of wisdom and experience.”

I remember hearing one woman talking to her friend about another woman once and say:

“Why doesn’t *insert name* dye her hair ? It looks really bad like that, totally neglected.”

Criticism by others is not something I am afraid of. If I was scared, I wouldn’t make my voice public like I do here. But, the newly discovered white hairs once again confronted me with the thought of how others perceive me. Because I am very aware, when such a thought creeps up on me, I immediately recognize that it is happening and act quickly to shake it off, returning once more to a state of Zen.

We, Homo Sapiens, are programmed to be social animals, part of a group, and it’s important for us to be loved and accepted. This is one of the reasons we have thrived and became the most dominant and powerful species on Earth. It is indeed inherently evolutionary for us to want to be accepted and fit in. Even with something as seemingly minor as grooming and beauty routines.

I don’t know what I’ll do on the day when there will be more than 3 white hairs. I will probably not dye them (but I’m leaving myself the option to choose differently when the time comes.)

It seems a very strange concept to me personally, to go to “renew roots” once every month and let someone apply nasty damaging chemicals to my scalp so often.

I am currently wearing blonde highlights as I said, doing it once every eight months and promptly forgetting about it. Yet, even with that, I plan to ultimately quit this beauty regime and not continue it anymore. I miss my natural hair color. 

At my previous job, there were two women who did not color their gray hairs- one of them was nearing the age of 60 and the other was in her 30s. They both looked beautiful to me and I always enjoyed looking at them. They calmed me, I admired that they were doing what was in their head (no pun intended, but hey). I never thought of these two women as negligent or remiss in their looks. Nor did I think they were lazy or sloppy (they were both high caliber performers, each in her own field), and I appreciated that they cared about their health.

I mentioned in a past blog post that 95% of the waste of a particular product happens in the production process, rather than using the product itself. The toxic chemicals emitted by hair dye are harmful to our world, yes of course. But in addition to that, they further harm and do damage to our bodies. 

I am seeing a wonderful change happening, while currently living in an upscale neighborhood in Miami Beach, and I pay close attention to it when I’m here. Many women of the highest socioeconomic status are around.I see them coming out of their yoga class and stopping to buy fresh organic juices. Many of them are wearing their gray, uncolored hair, and they look super elegant!

Nobody would think they dye their hair because they were “Letting themselves go”. Hey, even the Queen of England doesn’t dye her hair. Does anyone think she’s neglecting herself?

So what do you think when you see women with gray hair?

Do you avoid or will avoid dying because of minimalism / sustainability / health? Or will you be disturbed by the opinions of others about your looks and societies’ standards and their beauty expectations of women? 

There is also a possibility that you dye your hair because you like the way it looks. That’s OK! There is no dilemma there or need for discussion from my standpoint.


EDITOR’S NOTE: Lee Snir is one of the founding partners of Legendary Life and is the original author of these blog posts. Lee is an active environmental advocate and in-demand speaker, writer and influencer in her native Israel. These blog posts were originally published in her native Hebrew in her personal blog titled, “Elita Yeruka” (“Green Elite” in English.)

When we translated Lee’s blogs for Legendary Life our goal was to only edit for grammar and clarity but to retain “Lee’s voice”. Thus the editorial choices were to err on the side of not “Americanizing” the language and thus leaving the translated blog as close as possible to the original. Therefore, native English speakers may occasionally find the word choices and phrasing a little different than they are used to.

For those of you who are Hebrew speakers and wish to read the blogs in their original form and follow Lee’s Personal blog you can do so here:

https://www.facebook.com/elitayeruka/?modal=admin_todo_tour

DISCLAIMER: Any statements, opinions or conclusions contained herein are the author’s own and do not necessarily represent the statements, opinions or conclusions of Legendary Life (a Legendary Products, LLC brand), its owners, employees, contractors, affiliates, partners or advertisers.

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Karma’s A Bitch

They say that karma’s a bitch. But the truth is that it works the other way, too.

I find that I am well rewarded on a regular and immediate basis for every green action that I do. Not always, but usually.

On Lincoln Road, in Miami Beach, there is a Sunday Market every weekend. A variety of second-hand products for sale and rare art items are offered here to any tourist or resident who might be interested in these treasures. 

However, the absolutely most fun part of each Sunday Market, is that there is a coconut shake offered at one of the stands! <3

One of the simplest ways for us to reduce the waste we produce, is to carry in advance what we think will need or help us in our day to day adventures. Buying my shake in a plastic cup and after a few minutes of indulgence promptly throwing it in the trash can, does not give me joy. I’m not happy to know that because I drank a shake for 15 minutes, I created waste that will stay here long after I am gone myself! But… I won’t give up on my favorite shake 🙂 Simply, because I’m here now, and one day I won’t be.

I am here, on this planet, for a short amount of time. The plastic cup is not. I come to the coconut shake booth at the Sunday Market with a reusable cup of my own, which I fill repeatedly and it has accompanied me throughout my travels and experiences. The seller at the booth already recognizes me. Because really, how many people are coming to his booth and asking him for a shake in a Slytherin cup. I am a rare sight, if I do say so myself, honestly, how can he forget 🙂

Because he already recognizes me as a repeat customer, he is quite indulgent.He always fills my cup with a 400ml smoothie even though I pay for the 300 ml cup. When I do a good deed, I receive a good one back, on a regular basis. 

I think one of the reasons we refrain from doing things like asking a vendor to utilize their cup from home, is the feeling that we’re bothering people by doing so, it sets you apart from others and that seemingly bizarre act can feel uncomfortable.

For me, it’s a sincere pleasure to do things like that. I take advantage of those opportunities for some small activism. When the flight attendant walks over to me and offers something to drink, I say to her, ‘Yes, I’d love to, can you fill my glass, please? I prefer not to use a single-use plastic, it’s non biodegradable.’

I do it pleasantly, gently, and present it as a question. Not as a command or a duty. That’s one sentence. I don’t give an hour-long lecture. They always fill my glass to the top and with an abundance of ice.  Although, I do explain to them that it’s okay if they fill my cup just a bit, as if they were filling it in a small plastic cup just like for the rest of the people who are flying.

Yet, when I do a  green action, somehow I always get rewarded.

Both the flight attendants and those sitting next to me received a message and saw a personal example. It won’t make them stop using single-use plastic once and for all, of course. But I did bring it forward to their conscious mind the issue and problem of it all and that there was a simple way to reduce harm to the environment.

In conclusion, get out of the house with what you think you will need, and get over the feeling that it is awkward. As you begin to practice it more it will become a habit and easier to do.

Don’t forget that Karma is a bitch. But she can go the other way too. Like John Lennon sang, “Instant karma’s gonna get you!” 


EDITOR’S NOTE: Lee Snir is one of the founding partners of Legendary Life and is the original author of these blog posts. Lee is an active environmental advocate and in-demand speaker, writer and influencer in her native Israel. These blog posts were originally published in her native Hebrew in her personal blog titled, “Elita Yeruka” (“Green Elite” in English.)

When we translated Lee’s blogs for Legendary Life our goal was to only edit for grammar and clarity but to retain “Lee’s voice”. Thus the editorial choices were to err on the side of not “Americanizing” the language and thus leaving the translated blog as close as possible to the original. Therefore, native English speakers may occasionally find the word choices and phrasing a little different than they are used to.

For those of you who are Hebrew speakers and wish to read the blogs in their original form and follow Lee’s Personal blog you can do so here:

https://www.facebook.com/elitayeruka/?modal=admin_todo_tour

DISCLAIMER: Any statements, opinions or conclusions contained herein are the author’s own and do not necessarily represent the statements, opinions or conclusions of Legendary Life (a Legendary Products, LLC brand), its owners, employees, contractors, affiliates, partners or advertisers.

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Minimalism- How Many Bras Do You Actually Need?

Say, how many boobs do you have? I have one pair. 

Dear reader, I’m curious to know the number of bras you have in your closet? I counted 12 in mine.

About six months ago I moved into an apartment and decided to significantly reduce my belongings. I’m somewhat of a nomad by choice and move from place to place on a regular basis. I also decided to condense my wardrobe and daily routine, thus eliminating the need to store so much “stuff”. I simply don’t use it.

When I looked at the number of bras I had, I realized that maybe 30% of them were used. Some of the following bras I had were:

  • A bra with a forward bracket (that I could open in front of someone by surprise- Ta-Da!!!)
  • A Pink bra (I hate pink…)
  • A purple colored bra (No way can I wear this color and not look sick with my complexion.)
  • X-back cross style bra (Okay, are we in the 90s?)
  • A comfortable bra to wear at home (if I’m at home, I’m definitely not wearing a bra.)
  • Strapless Bra (Why? I’m not in high school anymore, I’m a 30-year-old woman. I haven’t worn a strapless top in years.)
  • A special occasion sexy lingerie bra, purely serving the purpose as Alpha male magnets (I’m currently running away from them. No thanks!)

And more and more, so much so I do not remember what else was there…

I am in Miami, now for a two-month business trip. I packed one bra (I’ll spare you the picture of it). As I mentioned earlier, I have one pair of boobs. How many bras do I REALLY need?

Plenty of objects can become noisemakers, distractions; economically, ecologically, visually and physically. Especially when we fly, we tend to pack more than we really need and use.

Just in case, we tell ourselves.

 The bra I packed is marked W for all my wishes are met:

  • I feel beautiful in it.
  • It’s comfortable.
  • It fits all the clothes I brought with me.
  • I can hand wash it and since it’s thin, it dries overnight. 

If you’re flying for a week, how many bras do you really need? What do you usually use when you’re at home?

There are many advantages to packing light. The ecological advantage of less weight in flight/travel is easily understandable. Furthermore, even just for you and your benefit, less weight to carry makes it easier for your mobility and experience. Also, less luggage load will help you find things most easily.

P.S.

I’m sure there will be women (especially our feminist friends) who would like to respond that the bra is unnecessary and it’s just social conditioning anyway (free the nipple!). That the use of bras are not at all healthy, and are ultimately unhelpful and undesirable. Okay. Understood. However, let us respect the women who do want or need to wear a bra.

When I go to formal business meetings, it is not customary to appear with a shirt or tailored dress without a bra underneath. It’s simply not socially appropriate or acceptable. Similarly, women with large breasts, women undergoing a mastectomy or breastfeeding women don’t feel comfortable running without a bra.  

So let’s allow each one to decide what’s right for her and just focus on reducing personal consumption. That is the purpose of this post. I am very much in favor of buying and consuming what makes us happy and serves our needs and purposes. But what I am very much NOT in favor of is buying and consuming excessively beyond our real needs.


EDITOR’S NOTE: Lee Snir is one of the founding partners of Legendary Life and is the original author of these blog posts. Lee is an active environmental advocate and in-demand speaker, writer and influencer in her native Israel. These blog posts were originally published in her native Hebrew in her personal blog titled, “Elita Yeruka” (“Green Elite” in English.)

When we translated Lee’s blogs for Legendary Life our goal was to only edit for grammar and clarity but to retain “Lee’s voice”. Thus the editorial choices were to err on the side of not “Americanizing” the language and thus leaving the translated blog as close as possible to the original. Therefore, native English speakers may occasionally find the word choices and phrasing a little different than they are used to.

For those of you who are Hebrew speakers and wish to read the blogs in their original form and follow Lee’s Personal blog you can do so here:

https://www.facebook.com/elitayeruka/?modal=admin_todo_tour

DISCLAIMER: Any statements, opinions or conclusions contained herein are the author’s own and do not necessarily represent the statements, opinions or conclusions of Legendary Life (a Legendary Products, LLC brand), its owners, employees, contractors, affiliates, partners or advertisers.

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